Hi Louise
I am not sure whether I have had an experience like yours but over the years I have had a fair few to draw on

Thing is we are all so different and RA affects each of us in a different way. It certainly sounds as though things aren't good for you right now.
At some time we all seem to go through periods when the whole thing is a jumble of non-effective treatments or inconclusive symptoms. I have been well controlled in the past, despite long term joint damage, but the last 15 months or so have been chop and change and very uncertain. I think it's important to set priorities and try to deal with one aspect at a time. RA can have such a devastating affect on our day to day lives and dealing with everything it throws our way can be so very difficult.
Inflamed joints tend to be warm/hot to the touch and often puffy from the increased fluid in and around the joint. Whilst you are in a flare situation 5 weeks is a long time to wait. Do your blood tests show high inflammatory markers, ESR/CRP? Perhaps not and hence the need for ultrasound. It sounds as though a GP visit might be in order to 1) get some better pain control 2) speak about your psychological well being and 3) to try and hurry things along!
My thoughts, and as I said we are all different, would be to sort out your day. Decide what you need to actually do as regards family, meals, hygiene etc. then think about what time you have left. Set up a plan allowing plenty of rest, try not to sleep during the day, watching a film, reading a book. Keep your mind occupied and busy! Have some periods of gentle activity to keep you mobile, do some small tasks to keep on top of things. Larger jobs such as cleaning, shopping, washing only one every other day and try not to overdo it! Try to eat small amounts often and above all keep calm! At the moment you do need time out from work, space to sort things out and time to adjust to your present needs. It's at this point you might wish to chuck something at the computer screen

, so I'm going to duck!
It's not easy, been there many times in the last 23 years, but things will get better. Sometimes they just need organising into manageable bits to help you cope. Do let us know how you go on
Lyn x